Police work does have unique aspects to
sexual stress.  You'll be dealing regularly
with a male criminal element that has no
appreciation for women.  When a woman
puts on a police uniform, that lack of
appreciation can become even more
pronounced.  You could frequently find
yourself enduring sexist comments and
language that will initially cause you stress.  
You'll simply have to train yourself to tune
out the insults.  If you don't, the resulting
stress will be of your own making.

Then there's the normal thing between men
and women that often occurs in the
workplace.  Yes...the work environment
often creates legitimate romantic
relationships.  Here's the only advice I can
give you on this one.  If you're working
together in an assignment where you're
performing actual police work like
responding to calls and doing other
dangerous things, request that one of you be
transferred to another assignment.

In police work, controlling your emotional
responses to anything is a big deal.  Where
intimate relationships are involved, danger
to one will evoke a strong emotional
response from the other.  When a police
officer's action(s) is controlled more by
emotion than training, the result(s) can be

When you begin your career, you're going to
be just as inexperienced as your male
counterparts.  You're going to need advice
and guidance just like the new guys.  Unlike
the boys, however, you may well find more
willingness from the experienced cops to
help you.  I wonder why?  Anyway...never
feel uncomfortable about putting anyone in
his place if he's making you feel
When I began my police career, police
commanders didn't want to know anything
about your domestic life, and they especially
didn't want to hear anything about sexual
issues.  When some things change, they
change in a big way.  Today, the subject of
sex is everywhere, and police departments
can't escape a reality that sometimes
reaches absurd proportions.

As a female police officer, you'll be entering
a work force where, on average, you'll be
outnumbered 8 to 2.  While some women
might find the lopsided ratio appealing,
others won't.  It really doesn't matter which
view you take, because you'll be subjected
to sexual stress either way.  The only
difference will be in how and why that stress

As long as you begin your career with the
realization that you have no immunity from
being subjected to sources of sexual stress,
you'll be way ahead at protecting yourself
from needless suffering.  You might think
that all the sexual harassment laws will
protect you from sexual stress.  Think again,
because most male police officers don't even
think about sexual harassment issues; until,
they're slammed in the face with an
allegation of sexual harassment.  Further,
when sexual stress is placed into the context
of sexual harassment, it simply results in
additional stress.

You'll fall into one of two categories of
female police officers.  In the first category
are those women who become police
officers, because they really want to do
police work.  The second category will be
comprised of women who know men's
weaknesses, and they will not hesitate in
exploiting those weaknesses.  Since you're
obviously in the first category, listen closely.

Police departments aren't any different from
any other male dominated work
environment.  Just as in any other line of
work, you'll see women exploit their
sexuality from flirting -- to much more -- for
favors and advancement.  Those sexually
professional relationships often result
in stress for everyone in the immediate work
environment.  When those relationships
sour, or become scandalous, the negative
effects only multiply along with the number
of people affected.
When I did the page on sexual stress and
the male police officer, I had no intention of
addressing the same subject regarding
female police officers.  I learned a long time
ago to keep my analysis of women's
behavior, sexual or otherwise, to myself
whenever possible.  However, fair is fair,
and I should make an effort to provide
advice to women seriously considering a
police career since all things sexual have
become of such interest, and a real source of
While men could have much more positive
control in limiting sexual favoritism, that just
simply isn't the reality.  You might work for
a sergeant -- hopefully -- who won't tolerate
any type, or even an appearance, of sexual
favoritism while your higher ranking unit or
district commander has never met a woman
who couldn't manipulate him ten different

You will see women receive favorable
treatment and advancement through their
sexual manipulation of men.  However, think
about the stress they're suffering from the
knowledge that everybody knows how
they're obtaining the favors and
advancement.  Women who use sexual
manipulation will often justify their behavior
through cynical self-delusion.  They'll
convince themselves that they are qualified
for better assignments and advancement,
but, just because they're women, they'll be
denied their deserved assignments and
advancement. Therefore, sexual
manipulation is just something they have to

You don't have to believe me, because you'll
learn for yourself that women who rely on
their sexuality are rarely, if ever, qualified
for assignments and advancement derived
through sexual relationships.  While those
women will be subjected to the obvious
stress generated from the tenuous nature of
such relationships, their behavior will be a
source of stress for their female co-workers
as well.

The experts will tell you that you're entering
a career rife with sexism.  Well...that just
isn't so.  It's easy to substitute sexism for
the normal ways things have been done and
continue to be done.  You've got to
remember that you're entering government
where the concepts of quality and
competence are not immediately
associated.  You can be a police officer,
male or female, of exceptional quality and
competence, and you'll learn that those
attributes won't, on their own, get you
anywhere when it comes to assignments and

In government, the politics and personal
connections are the determining factors.  
Here's where being female obviously
becomes tricky.  How do you make those
personal and political connections in a male
dominated environment without sex entering
into the picture?  It's obviously possible
since a lot of women manage to advance
without becoming practitioners of sexual
Sexual Stress
and the Female
Police Officer
"...most male police officers don't even
think about sexual harassment issues;
until, they're slammed in the face with
an allegation of sexual harassment."
~ Barry M. Baker
Copyright © 2015  Barry M. Baker